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(And Here’s What to Do About It)Let me guess. You’ve got goals. You’ve done the self-help reading, maybe even journaled a bit. And yet, you keep hitting the same wall. You doubt yourself. You pull back when things start to go well. You sabotage your own momentum.Sound familiar? You’re not alone.But here’s what I want you to hear loud and clear:You’re not broken. You’re just wired for survival.<figure id="figure-lsid0reu7cmabi9fzb"><img id="lsid0reu7cmabi9fzb" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2152914607/photo/medical-3d-illustration-of-a-man-with-stroke-symptoms.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=RXyhs8qHBqF02D8o1keH1P6ColZkUKHRNVwe_PSg9fA=" alt="Medical 3D illustration of a man with stroke symptoms" title="Medical 3D illustration of a man with stroke symptoms" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2152914607/photo/medical-3d-illustration-of-a-man-with-stroke-symptoms.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=RXyhs8qHBqF02D8o1keH1P6ColZkUKHRNVwe_PSg9fA=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h2> Your Brain Isn’t Designed for Confidence—It’s Designed for Safety</h2> Our brains are amazing, but they’re also stuck in survival mode from thousands of years ago. One of the biggest culprits? Something called negativity bias.That means your brain is constantly scanning for what might go wrong. It holds onto the one bad review over the 10 glowing ones. It questions your big dreams. It whispers, “Maybe stay small, just in case.”Because to your brain, growth = risk. And risk = danger. Even when the risk is actually just you going after what you want.<figure id="figure-4643dx6krmabi7qp8"><iframe id="4643dx6krmabi7qp8" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/5GaWgc-exIE" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/5GaWgc-exIE?si=Mna0S1DkS6QNqzn4" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/5GaWgc-exIE" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h2>&nbsp; So What Can You Do?</h2>You learn to rewire it.This is the kind of work I do with my clients every day—taking those survival-driven thoughts and helping you build new ones that actually support your life now. Not the life your ancestors were trying to survive. Yours.We don’t ignore fear—we get curious about it. We don’t shame self-doubt—we teach your brain that confidence can be safe. We don’t wait to be “fixed”—because you were never broken to begin with.<h2>&nbsp; Ready to Break the Cycle?</h2> If you’re tired of holding yourself back... If you’re craving real growth, deeper confidence, and that “finally me” feeling... Then it might be time to work together.This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about returning to who you were before the world told you to shrink.And I’d love to walk that journey with you.Let’s talk.Our next 10 Day Mastermind is geared toward exactly the things discussed in this blog post. To learn more <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind">CLICK HERE! </a><figure id="figure-om731gkb1qmabibdva"><iframe id="om731gkb1qmabibdva" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/4U0Rxi-RM-w" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/4U0Rxi-RM-w?si=GeHO6pgV0jEqSToV" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/4U0Rxi-RM-w" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>

You’re Not Broken—You’re Wired for Survival

Let me say something you really need to hear: Your brain is not broken. You’re not failing. You’re not lazy. You’re not "bad at healing."What’s happening is this: your brain is doing exactly what it was wired to do—keep you safe.So when you try to make a change—whether it’s setting a boundary, leaving a relationship, speaking up for yourself, or even just trying something new—your brain doesn’t always recognize it as growth. It often sees it as threat.And the response? Overthinking. Procrastination. Shutting down. Avoiding. Feeling tired for no reason.That’s not weakness. That’s your nervous system sounding the alarm, trying to protect you from what it thinks is unsafe—even if that “unsafe” thing is actually something really good for you.<figure id="figure-n9yds6fd6jma5gj6q1"><iframe id="n9yds6fd6jma5gj6q1" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/q-SdGZ_d58U" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/q-SdGZ_d58U?si=k7HMYAD15Ie-cUCS" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/q-SdGZ_d58U" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>So, What Do You Do Instead of Forcing It? You start small. Like… ridiculously small.Pick one action your brain won’t freak out about. Say “no” to something low-stakes. Take five minutes for yourself in the morning before picking up your phone. Pause before responding to that one person who always drains you.These tiny actions might not seem like much, but they’re powerful. Because they build trust with your nervous system. And trust is what allows real, lasting change to stick.You don’t need to push harder. You don’t need to be more disciplined. You need to feel safer.This is exactly the kind of work I do with my coaching clients every week—helping them regulate their nervous systems, rewire limiting beliefs, and finally stop repeating the same stuck cycles over and over again.If this resonates and you're ready to feel supported in your growth, I’d love to chat. Send me a message at <a href="mailto:Messina1892@gmail.com">Messina1892@gmail.com</a> and we can set up a time to chat.&nbsp;Your next version is already waiting for you—you just don’t have to get there alone.

Your Brain’s Not Broken—Here’s Why It’s Resisting Change

If you’re on a healing journey right now—or even just thinking about starting one—I want to share something with you. These are the three things I wish someone had told me before I started mine. Because wow… I had to learn these the hard way. And maybe this will save you a little bit of that pain and pressure.<figure id="figure-agk0y3tbnsma47v1np"><iframe id="agk0y3tbnsma47v1np" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/i01wmIn5Yzc" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/i01wmIn5Yzc?si=F_v3t5iFFDE7L8jQ" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/i01wmIn5Yzc" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>1. You don’t need to be fully healed to start living your life. Let’s get this one out of the way first. If you’re waiting until you feel “healed” or “ready” to go after what you want—to start dating, leave the job, speak up, move forward—you’re going to be waiting forever. Growth doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It happens while you're living, messing up, trying again, and doing the best you can. You don’t have to be perfect to begin. You just have to begin.2. Feeling better doesn’t always mean feeling happier. This one shocked me. I thought healing would feel light and freeing right away… but a lot of the time, it felt heavy. Like grief. Like anger. Like exhaustion. And that’s because healing often involves actually feeling the things you’ve been avoiding for years. It’s not always a high-vibe experience. But that doesn’t mean it’s not working—it means it is.3. You’re not broken. The patterns you’re trying to change? They started as protection. People-pleasing, shutting down, over-functioning—those were survival tools. You did what you had to do to stay safe. But now? You get to choose differently. You don’t need to shame your past—you need to understand it so you can grow from it.If any of this hit home for you, just know: this is exactly the kind of work I do with my coaching clients every week. It's not about being perfect. It’s about being honest, supported, and committed to growth that actually sticks.If you're ready to do that work—with support—send me an email at <a href="mailto:Messina1892@gmail.com">Messina1892@gmail.com</a> I’d be honored to walk beside you.

3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Healing Journey

If you’re feeling stuck, second-guessing yourself, or wondering why you keep hitting the same walls over and over again—you’re not broken. You’re just carrying around some limiting beliefs that are ready to be challenged.Limiting beliefs are those sneaky thoughts that tell you who you think you are, what you think you can have, and what you think is possible for you. And most of the time? They aren’t even yours. They’re old stories—things you picked up from your parents, your experiences, your past mistakes, society, or fear.One of the most powerful shifts you can make is learning how to spot those beliefs—and decide you’re done letting them run the show.<figure id="figure-mribq37dgma1c8vwj"><img id="mribq37dgma1c8vwj" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1465575746/photo/woman-pushes-through-troubles.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=oMrXXA1xlDYNzHtPrsz06H9m5xoE6cv0tbjfvZenAvE=" alt="Woman Pushes Through Troubles" title="Woman Pushes Through Troubles" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1465575746/photo/woman-pushes-through-troubles.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=oMrXXA1xlDYNzHtPrsz06H9m5xoE6cv0tbjfvZenAvE=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>One Simple Tip to Start Shifting Limiting Beliefs Here’s a simple practice you can start using today: Catch the thought and challenge it.The next time you hear that voice in your head say something like:<ul><li>“I’m not good enough.”</li><li>“It’s too late for me.”</li><li>“People like me don’t get to have that.”</li></ul>Pause. Take a breath. And ask yourself: Is this actually true—or is this just something I’ve been taught to believe?Then—get even bolder—and ask: What else could be true instead?Even opening that little door of possibility cracks everything wide open. It’s not about lying to yourself. It’s about realizing there are other truths available to you—ones that actually support where you want to go.Why This Matters for Confidence Every time you challenge a limiting belief, you’re showing yourself that you are in charge now. Not your fear. Not your past. Not other people’s opinions.Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s built, moment by moment, by proving to yourself that you’re capable of handling what comes your way. Shifting your beliefs is how you start stacking those moments.And when you start stacking them? You walk differently. You speak differently. You make decisions differently.You trust yourself—and that changes everything.<figure id="figure-udexw3dasbma1cbon3"><img id="udexw3dasbma1cbon3" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1169302727/photo/bringing-out-the-big-guns.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=_upnoYAP-BsRPKRW56wOTTJ0uGDEe0nFfPxo909LMec=" alt="Bringing out the big guns" title="Bringing out the big guns" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1169302727/photo/bringing-out-the-big-guns.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=_upnoYAP-BsRPKRW56wOTTJ0uGDEe0nFfPxo909LMec=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>It’s Bigger Than Just Confidence Changing the way you think changes the way you live.It impacts your relationships, your career, your health, your joy—everything. Because when you start believing you are worthy of the things you want, you start making decisions that align with that worth.And that’s when life gets really good.<figure id="figure-b3ho3fyje9ma1cdlj8"><iframe id="b3ho3fyje9ma1cdlj8" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/4U0Rxi-RM-w" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/4U0Rxi-RM-w?si=HusXmhwYZBJfQdw5" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure>&nbsp; If you’re ready to start that shift—and you want some support along the way—<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind">the next round of the 10-Day Mindset Bootcamp kicks off May 12th!</a>We’re talking daily mindset hacks, real tools you can use, a supportive community, a workbook to guide you, and two live group coaching calls to keep you on track.You don’t need to have it all figured out to start—you just need to be ready.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mastermind">[Click here to join us!]</a>Let’s shift the story—together.

How Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Changes Everything

What happens when the version of you that’s always lived inside finally gets a chance to be seen?That’s the heart of <a data-mce-href="https://youtu.be/2cvE_ZBzMVI?si=Cq4iJZ4vgiEuiMzV" href="https://youtu.be/2cvE_ZBzMVI?si=Cq4iJZ4vgiEuiMzV">Come As You Are</a>, a new docuseries I created to spotlight real LGBTQ+ stories—especially from those who came out <a data-mce-href="https://clublilles.com/" href="https://clublilles.com/">later in life</a>. These stories are about identity, healing, courage, and the power of finally becoming who you’ve always been.And today, I’m honored to share our very first episode with you.Watch Myra’s Story: <figure id="figure-s4xtrk3h9gm9rkrbdf"><iframe id="s4xtrk3h9gm9rkrbdf" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/2cvE_ZBzMVI" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/2cvE_ZBzMVI?si=Cq4iJZ4vgiEuiMzV" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/2cvE_ZBzMVI" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>In this debut episode, we meet Myra—a proud <a data-mce-href="https://clublilles.com/" href="https://clublilles.com/">Club LILLES</a> member—who shares her journey of being forced out of the closet and the years that followed as she began to rebuild a life that felt more honest, more empowered, and more hers.We also walk through a transformation that helped her finally see herself reflected in the mirror—on her own terms.But let me be clear: this isn’t about a haircut or a suit. This is about visibility. This is about truth. This is about the moment when you stop hiding and start living.Whether you’ve been out for decades or you’re still figuring out what it all means, I hope Myra’s story reminds you that it’s never too late to come home to yourself.Come as you are. Stay as long as you need.If this story speaks to you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you have a story of your own you’d like to tell in a future episode, reach out—I’d love to hear from you.With love, Jaime

Come As You Are: Myra’s Story of Identity, Courage, and Coming Home to Herself

The perfect combo of fresh air and fitness

Let’s just call it like it is: You already know what to do. You’ve read the books. Saved the quotes. Bought the planner.You’ve had the “this time I’m serious” moment more than once. And yet… here you are again. Stuck. Stalled. Frustrated.Not because you’re lazy. Not because you’re broken. But because motivation is a liar—and consistency is a skill most people were never taught.That’s why I created <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod">The Momentum Method</a>—because knowing what to do isn’t the problem. Actually doing it? That’s the part where most people quit.<figure id="figure-266gegqgiqm9irwwz9"><iframe id="266gegqgiqm9irwwz9" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/QSBj0xEbjwI" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/QSBj0xEbjwI?si=lK1nKhNtPXhxZtc8" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/QSBj0xEbjwI" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>What is The Momentum Method? It’s an 8-week group coaching experience where we stop making excuses, stop waiting for the “right time,” and finally do the damn thing—one small, consistent action at a time.This is for the person who’s tired of being almost committed. The person who wants to stop starting over. The one who’s done letting perfectionism and “I’ll do it tomorrow” run the show.What You’ll Actually Do:<ul><li>Pick one area of your life and commit to creating change</li><li>Track your energy, your habits, and your mindset (no fluff—just real tools)</li><li>Learn how to rewire your patterns using neuroscience, not willpower</li><li>Stop ghosting your goals</li><li>And maybe for once in your damn life—follow through</li></ul>Oh, and did I mention? You’re not doing it alone. You’ve got coaching. You’ve got community. You’ve got accountability. Basically—you’ve got backup this time.We Start MONDAY. No more “maybe next round.” No more watching from the sidelines. No more waiting until you feel ready. (Spoiler: readiness is a myth.)You in? 👉 <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themomentummethod">Click here to save your spot.</a>Let’s build some momentum. Let’s get loud about it. Let’s freaking go.

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Mindset & Empowerment Blog

You’re Not Broken—You’re Wired for Survival

Your Brain’s Not Broken—Here’s Why It’s Resisting Change

3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Starting My Healing Journey

How Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Changes Everything

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