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We’ve all had those moments when something small throws us off course. You spill your coffee, get stuck in traffic, or receive a vague text that leaves you feeling uneasy. These might seem like minor annoyances, but did you know they can actually disrupt your nervous system?Your nervous system is constantly working behind the scenes to keep you balanced. When it’s functioning well, you can respond to stress and then return to a calm, centered state. But when it’s out of balance—a state called nervous system dysregulation—even the smallest triggers can leave you feeling anxious, irritable, or shut down.In this blog post, we’ll explore what nervous system dysregulation feels like, common everyday triggers that can knock you off balance, and simple techniques to help you find your calm again. And if you’re ready to dive deeper, I’ll be sharing an upcoming group coaching opportunity at the end!<figure id="figure-xzkfvk8u4m4limall"><img id="xzkfvk8u4m4limall" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1530904519/photo/young-sad-woman-lying-in-bed-late-at-night-trying-to-sleep-suffering-insomnia-girl-in-bed.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=d8q2js0mQZmcJlac4G7DhlOc5hO9azItCRXWEOEscgY=" alt="Young sad woman lying in bed late at night trying to sleep suffering insomnia. Girl in bed scared on nightmares looking worried and stressed. Sleeping disorder and insomnia" title="Young sad woman lying in bed late at night trying to sleep suffering insomnia. Girl in bed scared on nightmares looking worried and stressed. Sleeping disorder and insomnia" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1530904519/photo/young-sad-woman-lying-in-bed-late-at-night-trying-to-sleep-suffering-insomnia-girl-in-bed.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=d8q2js0mQZmcJlac4G7DhlOc5hO9azItCRXWEOEscgY=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>What Nervous System Dysregulation Feels Like When your nervous system is dysregulated, it can feel like your body and mind are stuck in overdrive or, conversely, like you’re shutting down completely. Here are some signs you might notice:Physical Symptoms: Chronic Fatigue: You’re tired all the time, even after a full night’s sleep. Muscle Tension: Tightness in your neck, shoulders, or jaw that won’t go away. Digestive Issues: Bloating, nausea, or an upset stomach. Heart Palpitations: Your heart races for no apparent reason. Sleep Disturbances: Trouble falling or staying asleep.Emotional Symptoms: Anxiety: Persistent worry or a sense of dread. Mood Swings: Irritability or sudden bursts of anger. Numbness: Feeling emotionally flat or disconnected. Overwhelm: Small tasks feel impossible to manage. Hypervigilance: Constantly on edge or scanning for danger. Cognitive Symptoms: Brain Fog: Difficulty concentrating or remembering things. Racing Thoughts: Your mind won’t stop spinning. Indecisiveness: Struggling to make even simple choices. Behavioral Symptoms: Avoidance: Steering clear of situations that feel stressful. Compulsive Behaviors: Overworking, overeating, or doomscrolling. Difficulty Relaxing: Feeling restless or guilty when you try to unwind.<figure id="figure-6ai879xulm4linv41"><img id="6ai879xulm4linv41" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1333529915/photo/closeup-shot-of-coffee-spilt-over-a-laptop-on-a-table.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=-lqUO78fC6s4DPHdj70pM1lhp2wsjbZA05KiDLmbV70=" alt="Closeup shot of coffee spilt over a laptop on a table" title="Closeup shot of coffee spilt over a laptop on a table" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1333529915/photo/closeup-shot-of-coffee-spilt-over-a-laptop-on-a-table.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=-lqUO78fC6s4DPHdj70pM1lhp2wsjbZA05KiDLmbV70=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>Everyday Triggers That Can Throw Off Your Nervous System It doesn’t take a major event to dysregulate your nervous system. Here are some common, everyday examples that might leave you feeling off balance:Running Late: The rush and anxiety of not being on time. Loud Noises: Sudden sounds like car horns or alarms. Stressful Emails or Texts: That vague work email or unexpected message. Spilling Something: The frustration of a small accident. Misplacing Items: The panic of not finding your keys or phone. Traffic Jams: The irritation of being stuck and helpless. Multi-Tasking: Trying to do too much at once. Social Media Scrolling: Comparing yourself or reading negative comments. Skipping Meals: Low blood sugar leading to irritability. Minor Miscommunications: A misunderstanding that triggers frustration. These may seem like "no big deal," but they add up and can keep your nervous system in a state of constant stress.<figure id="figure-0xmt2fc66hhm4lipgyp"><img id="0xmt2fc66hhm4lipgyp" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1485165147/photo/young-mutli-ethnic-woman-practices-deep-belly-breathing-meditation-in-park.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=RMH_pdk6zsOzh4egrXXmr9bEohMxq1aBkkxmQ05wV44=" alt="Young mutli-ethnic woman practices deep belly breathing, meditation in park" title="Young mutli-ethnic woman practices deep belly breathing, meditation in park" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/1485165147/photo/young-mutli-ethnic-woman-practices-deep-belly-breathing-meditation-in-park.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=RMH_pdk6zsOzh4egrXXmr9bEohMxq1aBkkxmQ05wV44=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>Techniques to Calm Your Nervous System The good news? You can learn to regulate your nervous system. Here are a few simple techniques you can use whenever you feel off balance:Diaphragmatic Breathing: Place one hand on your belly and breathe deeply, allowing your belly to expand. This signals safety to your nervous system. 4-7-8 Breathing: Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 7, and exhale for 8. This helps slow your heart rate and reduce anxiety. Grounding Exercise (5-4-3-2-1): Identify 5 things you see, 4 things you touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste. This anchors you in the present moment. Cold Water Splash: Splash cold water on your face to quickly calm anxiety and stimulate your vagus nerve. Butterfly Hug: Cross your arms over your chest and gently tap your shoulders alternately to create a sense of safety and regulation. Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Tense and release each muscle group from your feet to your head to let go of stored tension. Incorporating these techniques into your day can help your nervous system return to a balanced state, allowing you to respond to life’s challenges with greater ease.<figure id="figure-iznsqu8gcnm4liqm40" class=""><iframe id="iznsqu8gcnm4liqm40" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/lKrqrFnoEEc?si=B6JNo0c4_IitdI_I" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim">Ready to Dive Deeper? Join Our Upcoming Group Coaching Program!</a> If you’re ready to learn more about nervous system regulation and create lasting change, I’m excited to invite you to my 12-Week Group Coaching Program: Rise &amp; Reclaim starting January 6th.This program is designed to help you:<ul><li>Understand your nervous system and how it influences your life.</li><li>Learn practical techniques to calm and regulate your mind and body.</li><li>Build resilience, self-compassion, and healthy boundaries.</li><li>Connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals on the same healing journey.</li></ul>Together, we’ll explore self-healing tools, personalized exercises, and group support to help you find balance and empowerment.Spots are limited, so if you’re ready to invest in your well-being, <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim">click here to learn more and join us!</a>Let’s take this journey together. You deserve to feel calm, connected, and whole.&nbsp; I can’t wait to support you on your path to self-healing!

Feeling Out of Balance? Here's What Nervous System Dysregulation Feels Like and How to Find Calm

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Have you ever felt like you’re wearing a mask, going through life playing a role that doesn’t quite fit? Maybe you’ve felt an inner pull to be more you but worry about what that might mean or how others will react. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.Living authentically means aligning your life with who you truly are, rather than who you think you’re supposed to be. It means embracing your values, honoring your desires, and allowing your unique self to shine. But how do you know if you’re ready to take that leap?<figure id="figure-0kcn46rnem4kej9do"><img id="0kcn46rnem4kej9do" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/2159350115/photo/welcome-merry-christmas-and-happy-new-year-in-2025-silhouette-man-jumping-from-2024-cliff-to.jpg?b=1&s=2048x2048&w=0&k=20&c=CHOzmePW1pabbirtsTFq6Z7miNIdFnMPkv3c_rFVN1s=" alt="Welcome merry Christmas and happy new year in 2025,Silhouette Man jumping from 2024 cliff to 2025 cliff with cloud sky and sunlight." title="Welcome merry Christmas and happy new year in 2025,Silhouette Man jumping from 2024 cliff to 2025 cliff with cloud sky and sunlight." class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionX="undefined" data-positionY="undefined" data-fullWidth="false"/></figure>Here are 5 signs you’re ready to step into your true self and live a life that feels deeply authentic and fulfilling.1. You’re Tired of Pretending If you often find yourself exhausted by the need to keep up appearances or maintain a persona that doesn’t feel real, this is a powerful sign you’re ready for change. Pretending to be someone you’re not drains your energy and limits your joy. When you live authentically, you reclaim that energy and use it to create a life that feels genuine. 2. You Feel a Deep Desire for Change Maybe you’re waking up with a sense that something’s missing, or perhaps you’re feeling restless in your current routine. That inner nudge is your true self calling you forward. A desire for change often signals that you’re ready to break free from old patterns and step into a more aligned and fulfilling way of living.3. You’re Craving Deeper Connections When you’re not living authentically, relationships can feel shallow or unsatisfying. You might find yourself surrounded by people who don’t truly see you. The desire for deeper, more meaningful connections is a sign you’re ready to show up as your true self—and to find people who embrace and celebrate the real you.4. You’re Ready to Release Limiting Beliefs Do you find yourself held back by thoughts like, “I’m not good enough,” or, “I’ll be judged if I’m truly myself”? These limiting beliefs keep you trapped in fear and prevent you from experiencing the freedom of authenticity. When you’re ready to challenge these beliefs, you’re ready to transform your life.5. You Want to Feel More at Peace Living out of alignment creates inner tension. You might experience anxiety, frustration, or a sense of being lost. When you’re ready to feel more at peace with yourself and your choices, it’s time to explore what it means to live authentically. Peace comes from being true to who you are.Ready to Take the Next Step? If any of these signs resonate with you, it’s your time to rise and reclaim your true self. But you don’t have to do it alone.I’m pumped to introduce <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim">Rise &amp; Reclaim: Your Path to Wholeness</a>, a 12-week transformative group coaching program designed to guide you through breaking free from limiting beliefs, reconnecting with your authentic self, and stepping confidently into a life filled with self-love and empowerment.In a warm, supportive community, we’ll explore self-healing practices, practical tools, and guided activities that nurture your mind, body, and soul. Together, we’ll release what no longer serves you, build resilience, and create a life that feels genuinely yours.<figure id="figure-5y58zpoouim4kei0iw"><iframe id="5y58zpoouim4kei0iw" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/lKrqrFnoEEc?si=g6IqsyL4m1XWfaxa" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>Mark your calendar: January 6th to March 28th, 2025.If you’re ready to say goodbye to pretending, to honor your desire for change, and to experience the freedom of living authentically, I’d love for you to join us.Let’s make this your season of transformation.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim">[Click here to learn more about Rise &amp; Reclaim and secure your spot!]</a>

What Does It Mean to Live Authentically? 5 Signs You’re Ready to Step Into Your True Self

Imagine waking up one day, flipping through a newspaper, and reading your own obituary. Not only that, but the headline paints you as a villain—a merchant of death. That’s what happened to Alfred Nobel in 1888 when a French newspaper mistakenly published his obituary after his brother's passing. Instead of being remembered as an inventor or a visionary, he was condemned as someone who profited from destruction.<figure id="figure-joctgpz15m4iu6y76"><img id="joctgpz15m4iu6y76" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/21RGfYCuONXo6u7cBKXi8ckpq0Beum6tw344g5zk2SGH8VxqbVrMRHPbBcssQTLl.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined% 70%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined%" data-positiony="70%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/21RGfYCuONXo6u7cBKXi8ckpq0Beum6tw344g5zk2SGH8VxqbVrMRHPbBcssQTLl.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: undefined% 70%;"></figure>Let’s pause for a second here. How would you feel if you read something similar about yourself? If the world’s perception of you was vastly different from how you saw yourself—or hoped to be remembered?Alfred Nobel didn’t stay stuck in the shock or shame of that moment. Instead, he asked a powerful question: “What legacy do I truly want to leave behind?” And then he took action. He rewrote his story by using his wealth to establish the Nobel Prizes, including the Nobel Peace Prize, awarded to those who promote peace and better the world.It’s a remarkable tale of transformation, not just for Nobel, but for all of us who feel stuck in a narrative we didn’t intend to write.&nbsp; What Story Are You Writing Right Now? We often get swept up in routines, beliefs, or patterns of behavior, rarely stopping to ask if we’re creating the life we truly want. But what if you paused and took an honest look at your own life’s “headline”? What does it say right now?Is it the story of someone who:<ul><li>Feels trapped by old habits or fears?</li><li>Longs to make a difference but doesn’t know how to start?</li><li>Wants to heal, grow, or take a bold step forward?</li></ul>If your current headline isn’t one that fills you with pride or purpose, don’t worry—you hold the pen. Like Alfred Nobel, you have the power to change the story you’re writing.&nbsp; Reflect and Reframe Here are some coaching prompts to help you reflect on your own legacy and direction:<ol><li>If your life were summed up in a headline today, what would it say?</li><li>What headline would you want it to say?</li><li>What’s one small action you can take this week to move closer to that vision?</li></ol> Nobel’s transformation didn’t happen overnight. But his willingness to reflect, reframe, and take inspired action changed his story—and the world. You can do the same.&nbsp; Your Legacy Begins Now Every thought you nurture, every action you take, and every choice you make adds a new line to your story. You’re not locked into the past. You’re not stuck with the narrative someone else wrote for you.You have the power to shift your mindset, take empowered steps, and create a life that aligns with who you want to be. Whether it’s through small acts of kindness, pursuing a dream you’ve put off, or simply believing in your own worth—your legacy is being crafted right now.So, what headline will you write today?&nbsp; If you’re ready to start rewriting your story, <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">I’m here to help</a>. Let’s explore what’s possible, together. <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">Click here to learn more!</a>

The Power of Changing Your Story

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When it comes to personal growth and transformation, many people picture a one-on-one coaching experience. And while that can be powerful, there's a hidden gem that often gets overlooked: group coaching programs.If you’ve never experienced one, you might be wondering, “How can a group setting help me when my journey is so personal?” The answer is simple: because transformation, while deeply personal, can be amplified when shared in the right community.Here’s why group coaching programs are, honestly, amazing:1. You’re Not Alone on the Journey In a group coaching program, you’re surrounded by people who get it. They’re navigating similar challenges, asking the same questions, and seeking growth just like you. There’s something incredibly affirming about realizing that you’re not the only one trying to untangle thoughts, set new goals, or shift old patterns.That sense of camaraderie can be like a cozy blanket of support when things feel tough.2. Community = Accountability Let’s face it — staying consistent with personal development goals can be challenging. Life happens, motivation dips, and sometimes we just need a nudge to keep going. In a group coaching setting, you’ve got a built-in network cheering you on and gently holding you accountable.When others are showing up, reflecting, and taking action, it inspires you to do the same. Momentum builds, and before you know it, you're achieving things you might have postponed if you were doing it solo.3. You Learn From Everyone’s Insights One of the most beautiful parts of group coaching is how much you can learn from others’ experiences and perspectives. When someone shares a breakthrough, a struggle, or even a question you hadn’t thought of, it can spark insights you didn’t see coming.This collective wisdom creates a richer experience. It’s like having a team of people all helping you look at your life from new angles.4. Shared Wins Feel Even Bigger Personal wins are always worth celebrating, but there’s something extra special about having a group of people who truly understand what that win means for you. When you share your success in a group, it doesn’t just feel like your victory — it feels like everyone’s victory.And when you witness others’ successes, it reinforces that growth is possible for you too. It’s a beautiful feedback loop of inspiration and encouragement.5. Safe Spaces Create Real Transformation A well-facilitated group coaching program creates a safe, non-judgmental space where you can share, explore, and grow. Vulnerability feels less scary when you see others being open too. In this environment, you’re not just learning techniques or tools — you’re practicing being more authentic and courageous.And that practice, week after week, often leads to deeper transformation than you might achieve on your own.6. It’s More Accessible Group coaching is often more affordable than one-on-one coaching, making it an awesome way to invest in yourself without breaking the bank. Plus, it offers incredible value because you’re gaining not only the coach’s expertise but also the collective energy of the group.Ready to Experience the Magic? If you’ve been curious about group coaching, now’s the perfect time to give it a try. Imagine a community where your growth is celebrated, your challenges are understood, and your journey is supported. That’s what a great group coaching program can offer.&nbsp;We have a new 12-Week Group Coaching Program coming up this January that is focused on breaking free from limiting beliefs, reconnecting with your true self, and stepping confidently into a life filled with self-love and empowerment. In this program, we will focus on the mind, body, and soul through exercises involving our nervous system and reprogramming our brain. <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/riseandreclaim">Check out more info here!</a>&nbsp;<figure id="figure-41z6u05wurm4h6otto"><iframe id="41z6u05wurm4h6otto" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/lKrqrFnoEEc?si=BNzDXNLDnhx7rEFA" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/lKrqrFnoEEc" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>Whether you’re looking to build confidence, heal old wounds, or step into a more authentic version of yourself, growing together can make the process feel more joyful, connected, and empowering.Group coaching isn’t just about reaching your goals — it’s about realizing that the journey itself can be filled with connection, insight, and shared celebration.So why not take that step and find your community of growth? You might be amazed at what unfolds when you do.

Why Group Coaching Programs Are Amazing: The Power of Growing Together

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As we head into 2025, I’ve been reflecting on my own journey as a coach—and one truth that always stands out is this: Coaches have coaches. We’re just as committed to our growth as we encourage our clients to be, and finding the right coach can be as much of a journey for us as it is for anyone else.Recently, as I began searching for a new coach to support me in this next chapter of my life, I realized how tricky it can be to find the perfect fit. So, if you’re on the hunt for a mindset or life coach, I wanted to share some things I’ve learned along the way that can help you find someone who truly aligns with you and your goals.&nbsp; 1. Get Clear on What You’re Looking For Before you start your search, spend some time reflecting.<ul><li>What do you want to focus on? Is it confidence? Career growth? Healing old patterns?</li><li>What kind of support feels right? Do you need someone who will push you, or do you thrive with a gentler, more reflective approach?</li></ul>Clarity will help you narrow down your options and make it easier to recognize the right coach when you find them.&nbsp; 2. Do Your Research There are so many incredible coaches out there, but not all of them will be a match for you—and that’s okay!<ul><li>Check out websites, Instagram profiles, and directories like the International Coaching Federation.</li><li>Read through testimonials, blog posts, or videos. The right coach will speak in a way that resonates with you and your goals.</li></ul>&nbsp; 3. Focus on Connection Over Credentials Certifications and experience are important, but the magic of coaching lies in the connection. You want someone who feels like a good fit energetically—someone you feel comfortable opening up to and inspired by.Personally, I gravitate toward coaches who are authentic and approachable, who balance accountability with compassion. What qualities are non-negotiable for you?&nbsp; 4. Schedule a Discovery Call Most coaches offer a free consultation call so you can get a feel for their vibe and approach. Use this time to ask questions like:<ul><li>What’s your coaching style?</li><li>How do you help clients navigate challenges?</li><li>Can you share an example of someone you’ve worked with on similar goals?</li></ul>Pay attention to how you feel during the conversation. Do you feel seen? Heard? Excited? Trust your gut—it rarely steers you wrong.To schedule a discovery call with me, <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">click here!</a>&nbsp; 5. Remember, This Is a Partnership The best coaching relationships are collaborative. Your coach isn’t there to “fix” you—they’re there to empower you, guide you, and hold you accountable to your vision.It’s okay if it takes a few tries to find the right fit. Just like dating, the process is about finding someone whose energy and expertise match your needs and personality.&nbsp; 6. Start Small If committing to a long-term program feels overwhelming, see if your potential coach offers single sessions or a shorter-term program. This can be a great way to test the waters and see if their approach clicks with you.&nbsp; 7. Coaches Have Coaches It’s worth mentioning again because it’s so important—coaches have coaches! I believe in this work so deeply that I regularly invest in coaching for myself. It’s a reminder that we’re all on a journey, and no matter how much we’ve learned, there’s always room to grow.&nbsp; Why This Matters Working with the right coach can be a game-changer. They’ll hold space for you to explore your potential, help you uncover new perspectives, and guide you toward action steps that align with your goals.As I continue my own search for a coach to support me in 2025, I’m keeping these same tips in mind. It’s a reminder that this process isn’t about finding someone perfect—it’s about finding someone perfect for you.If you’ve been thinking about working with a coach, I hope this helps you get one step closer to finding the right fit. And if you have questions or want to chat about coaching, I’m here. Let’s figure it out together.&nbsp; Remember: The investment you make in yourself will always pay off in ways you can’t yet imagine. You’ve got this!&nbsp;If you are interested in working with me as your coach, let's set up a time to chat! <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">Click here</a> or send an email to Messina1892@gmail.com

How to Find the Right Mindset or Life Coach for You

<figure id="figure-r8o3xzl3aim48qr5xo"><img id="r8o3xzl3aim48qr5xo" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/173563292/photo/christmas-tired.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=qWZXA-UEa0RDhanEp1R7vAxBQWS01tCOuzcYZeVEEnA=" alt="Christmas Tired" title="Christmas Tired" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/173563292/photo/christmas-tired.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=qWZXA-UEa0RDhanEp1R7vAxBQWS01tCOuzcYZeVEEnA=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>The holiday season is often painted as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. But for many, this time of year can bring up feelings of sadness, loneliness, and even depression. If the holidays feel more heavy than happy for you, know that you’re not alone—and it’s okay to feel this way. Here are some practical tips and heartfelt suggestions to help you navigate these challenging emotions with care and compassion.1. Acknowledge Your Feelings First and foremost, give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling. Sadness, overwhelm, or even numbness during the holidays is valid. You don’t have to “fake” joy to meet societal expectations. Reflect on your emotions, name them, and, if possible, share them with someone you trust or journal them out. Sometimes, simply acknowledging your feelings can provide a sense of relief.2. Adjust Your Expectations The holiday season doesn’t have to be perfect. In fact, expecting perfection often leads to more stress and disappointment. Let go of trying to recreate past holidays or fulfill unrealistic expectations. Focus on what truly matters to you and simplify your plans to honor your energy and needs.3. Prioritize Your Physical Health Taking care of your body is one of the simplest ways to support your mental health:Stick to a routine: Keeping a consistent sleep, exercise, and meal schedule can help stabilize your mood. Be mindful of alcohol and sugar: While tempting, these can lead to energy crashes and mood swings. Moderation is key. Move your body: Even gentle stretches or a short walk can have a positive impact on your emotional well-being.4. Set Boundaries The holiday season can come with a lot of demands—family gatherings, social events, gift exchanges—but it’s okay to say no. Protect your energy by setting boundaries and focusing on activities and people that bring you comfort and peace. Remember, “no” is a complete sentence, and prioritizing your well-being is not selfish.5. Reach Out for Connection Feeling isolated can deepen sadness, so reaching out to others—even in small ways—can make a big difference. Call a friend, join a support group, or engage in local or online communities where you feel safe sharing your feelings. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone can bring comfort.6. Be Gentle with Yourself Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you’d offer to a dear friend. Practice self-compassion by allowing yourself space to rest, recharge, and feel without judgment. If possible, try to find small moments of gratitude—even if it’s for a warm cup of tea or a soft blanket. These little joys can add up.7. Create New Traditions If old traditions feel painful or no longer resonate, consider starting your own. This could mean baking cookies for yourself, watching your favorite movies, or volunteering in your community. Creating new rituals can provide a sense of comfort and meaning.8. Stay Present with Mindfulness When the holidays feel overwhelming, grounding yourself in the present moment can help. Simple mindfulness techniques—like deep breathing or noticing the sights, sounds, and smells around you—can provide calm amidst the chaos. Meditation apps or guided exercises can also be a great resource.9. Plan for Loneliness If you know the holidays are a lonely time for you, plan ahead:<ul><li>Schedule virtual hangouts with friends or loved ones.</li><li>Seek out community events, workshops, or holiday gatherings where you might feel connected.</li><li>Spend time with pets or nature if people aren’t an option—they can offer their own form of companionship.</li></ul>10. Seek Professional Help If your feelings of sadness or depression feel too heavy to bear, don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support. Therapy can be a powerful tool, providing you with a safe space to explore your emotions and practical strategies for coping. If feelings of hopelessness become overwhelming, crisis hotlines are available 24/7 to offer immediate help.You’re Not Alone The holiday season can amplify emotions, both joyful and painful. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel sadness, to take care of yourself, and to redefine what this time of year looks like for you. Whether it’s through small acts of self-care, reaching out to others, or creating new traditions, each step you take is a gift to yourself.You deserve peace and compassion, not just during the holidays, but always. Be gentle with yourself—you’re doing the best you can.

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