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From the outside, you look like you have it together.You’re successful. Competent. The friend people call when they need grounding, strategy, support, or strength. The one who figures it out, pulls it off, holds everyone and everything steady.People admire you. They depend on you.And you don’t resent that — you’re proud of who you are and what you’ve built. But quietly? You’re tired.Not “fall apart in the shower” tired. Not “burn the whole thing down” tired.Just… done constantly carrying it all.Done being the emotional landing pad. Done being the planner, the handle-it person, the one who rarely needs anything. Done holding your breath through life.There’s a difference between burnout and this. Burnout screams. This feeling whispers.Burnout says I can’t take another step. This says I don’t want to keep running in a direction that doesn’t feel like freedom.And if you’re nodding along right now, here’s what you already know in your bones:You don’t need another productivity system. You don’t need a bigger morning routine. You don’t need a new planner, a color-code strategy, or a time-audit spreadsheet.You don’t want to “optimize.”You want to exhale.You want a nervous system that feels safe in stillness, not only in motion. A life that feels like yours, not like something you maintain for everyone else. Emotional safety. Clarity. Soft but steady energy. A sense of “I’m okay even when I’m not doing.” Freedom — the internal kind first.And I want to name something here, because high achievers rarely hear it:Sometimes the evolution isn’t about becoming more — it’s about learning that you don’t need to be more to be worthy.Sometimes success looks like softness. Sometimes power looks like peace. Sometimes expansion looks like slowing down so your spirit can catch up to your life.<figure id="figure-zve3ewpbucmhjfeo7j"><iframe id="zve3ewpbucmhjfeo7j" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/FCHv8Veq6qA" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/FCHv8Veq6qA?si=x_pYUOjJDeMfX4sp" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure><h3>A Simple Nervous-System Shift for This Week</h3>Here’s a small practice — one that rewires your nervous system over time:When you notice yourself rushing, bracing, tightening, or “powering through,” pause and say:“I am safe to slow down.”And then practice one tiny act of softness:Sit in your car for 60 seconds before walking in Take a full breath before replying to a text or email Walk a little slower on purpose Let one thing wait without explaining why Put your hand on your heart for a moment and feel your body Tiny doors lead to big freedom.This isn’t laziness. It’s nervous-system leadership.You're teaching your body that peace is not a threat — it’s allowed.When your system learns safety, your intuition gets louder, your energy returns, and life stops being something you survive through organization…and starts becoming something you actually inhabit.<h3>You’re Not Losing Your Edge — You’re Rewriting It</h3>Your next level isn’t hustle. It’s calm confidence. Intentional energy. A fully regulated nervous system that trusts you enough to rest.Soft power. Aligned timing. Clear boundaries. Self-possession.A life that feels like yours — not one you perform.If this spoke to you, trust that.You are not “slowing down.” You’re evolving.This is your expansion era. And it’s all unfolding perfectly.You don’t need to grind your way into your next chapter — you need space to become who you actually are now.And if your nervous system is whispering, “It’s time,” trust that.My private and group coaching programs are built for women who are ready to regulate, expand, and create a life that feels aligned and powerful from the inside out.Not rush. Not force. Become.If you’re curious whether this season is your time to rise, reach out. Let’s see if we’re a fit.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">LEARN MORE HERE!</a> &nbsp; &nbsp;

High Achiever Energy, Quiet Exhaustion — And the Desire for Real Peace

There are days when the world just feels loud. Not just in the obvious way — the sounds, the people, the movement — but in the energetic way. The kind that hits your nervous system before your mind even catches up.If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), you know exactly what I mean.<h3>When Everything Feels Like “Too Much”</h3>I can be walking down a busy street or through a crowded event and feel my body start to tighten. The noise, the lights, the overlapping conversations — they all start to pile on. It’s not that I’m anxious. It’s that my system is taking in everything.Highly Sensitive People process sensory and emotional input more deeply than most. Our brains are wired to notice the small shifts — the tone in someone’s voice, the flicker of light in a store, the tension in a crowd. It’s what makes us incredibly intuitive, compassionate, and emotionally intelligent… but it can also make the world feel overwhelming.Before I understood what was actually happening in my body, I thought something was wrong with me. I’d leave events early, cancel plans last minute, or get irritated out of nowhere. I used to tell myself I was being “too sensitive.”Now I know better.<figure id="figure-pvi9kydo29mhar2b0o"><iframe id="pvi9kydo29mhar2b0o" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/oqdN4F4O4Zw" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/oqdN4F4O4Zw?si=HM2fR-T-jwvvNYy4" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/oqdN4F4O4Zw" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h3>Overstimulation Isn’t Weakness — It’s Information </h3>Overstimulation isn’t about fragility. It’s your body communicating. Your nervous system is saying, “I’ve taken in enough for now.”That message isn’t a problem to fix — it’s feedback to respond to.As soon as I started treating those moments as signals instead of setbacks, everything shifted. I stopped pushing through and started pausing.<h3>My “Come Back to Myself” Ritual</h3>When I feel that internal buzz — the tightness in my chest, the overwhelm creeping in — I know it’s time to reset.Here’s what I do:<ol><li>Pause. I stop wherever I am, even if just for 30 seconds.</li><li>Breathe. One slow inhale through the nose, one long exhale through the mouth.</li><li>Ground. I focus on the feeling of my feet on the ground — the stability underneath me.</li><li>Tune In. I listen for something steady — the ocean, the wind, or even my own breath — to remind my body that I’m safe.</li></ol>It’s simple, but it’s powerful. Because the goal isn’t to escape the world — it’s to find peace inside it.<h3>Reframing Sensitivity as Strength</h3>Being an HSP in a loud world doesn’t mean you’re fragile. It means you’re finely attuned.When you learn how to regulate your nervous system, that deep sensitivity that once overwhelmed you becomes your greatest tool. You sense shifts, read energy, and connect with people on a level most can’t.Your sensitivity isn’t a flaw — it’s your feedback system. It’s how your body speaks to you.And when you learn to listen, you don’t just survive a loud world — you move through it with calm, clarity, and power.If this resonates, you’re probably wired for depth, awareness, and connection. That’s not something to hide — it’s something to harness.It’s all unfolding perfectly.<h3>Ready to work together? <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/">Learn more here!</a></h3> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

HSPs in a Loud World: How I Calm My Energy When It’s Too Much

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For a long time, I thought my sensitivity was something I had to overcome if I wanted to be successful as a coach. I felt too much. Too empathetic. Too emotional. Too drained after sessions that left me carrying other people’s energy long after the Zoom call ended.What I didn’t know back then was that my sensitivity wasn’t a liability—it was my superpower.<figure id="figure-onzme67bzhmh9gbmxi"><iframe id="onzme67bzhmh9gbmxi" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/09zEhn6Dwg4" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/09zEhn6Dwg4?si=OZfU4M5EGwoM7TQL" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/09zEhn6Dwg4" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h3>Before I Understood My Sensitivity</h3>When I first started coaching, I couldn’t figure out why some days felt so heavy. I’d finish a session and feel like I’d absorbed every ounce of what my clients were going through—like I’d lived their pain right alongside them.I tried to “toughen up.” I told myself I needed thicker skin, that I couldn’t let things get to me if I wanted to be good at this work.But the truth was, that approach only made things worse. The more I pushed my sensitivity down, the more disconnected I felt—from myself and from the deep empathy that made me a powerful coach in the first place.<h3>Learning to Regulate and Rewire</h3>Everything changed when I discovered what it meant to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). It’s not a label—it’s a nervous system trait. HSPs process information and emotions more deeply than most people. We pick up on subtle cues, tone shifts, energy changes, and emotional undercurrents that others might miss completely.Once I learned that, I stopped trying to fix my sensitivity and started learning how to work with it.I began regulating my nervous system before and after client calls—breathwork, grounding, journaling, and intentional breaks. I created energetic boundaries that allowed me to stay attuned without taking on someone else’s emotional weight.And that’s when my sensitivity stopped feeling heavy… and started feeling like intuition.<h3>Sensitivity as a Superpower</h3>Here’s something fascinating: research shows that Highly Sensitive People have more active mirror neurons—the part of the brain responsible for empathy and connection. That means we literally feel others more deeply.When you learn to regulate that power instead of being ruled by it, it becomes your greatest tool. As an HSP coach, I don’t just hear what my clients say—I feel what they mean. I notice the pause between words, the micro-shift in their energy, the emotion they’re not ready to voice yet.That kind of awareness allows me to ask the right questions at the right moment—the ones that actually lead to transformation.<h3>Harness, Don’t Hide, Your Sensitivity</h3>If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, know this: you don’t have to become less sensitive to succeed. You just have to create safety within your sensitivity.Learn how your nervous system works. Build the tools that help you regulate when things feel like “too much.” Because once you do, that same sensitivity that once felt like a burden becomes your blueprint for success.Your sensitivity isn’t a flaw—it’s your feedback system. It’s how you connect, create, and coach on a level that most people can’t even see.If this resonates, you might be an HSP who’s ready to learn how to regulate, rewire, and reclaim your peace. That’s the work I do every day—helping people turn their sensitivity into their strength, and their empathy into power.Because you don’t have to toughen up to thrive. You just have to learn to trust your design.<h3><a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">LEARN MORE HERE!</a></h3> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

What It’s Like to Coach as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

Ever notice how we talk about healing like it’s always soft and peaceful? Meditation. Journaling. Deep breaths.Don’t get me wrong — I love all of that. But sometimes, growth isn’t quiet. Sometimes, it’s loud, messy, and covered in paint.That’s exactly what this Freedom Day was about.<figure id="figure-dvu496w3wamgzdcr2p"><iframe id="dvu496w3wamgzdcr2p" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/dXeNybos1IY" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/dXeNybos1IY?si=q7RAugjTpduCi4hC" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/dXeNybos1IY" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h3>The Experience </h3>For this trial run, we swapped the usual salt tanks and sound bowls for something with a little more edge — a smash room in St. Pete. Imagine walking into a room armed with bats, sledgehammers, and glasses filled with paint. Then imagine being told, “Go ahead. Let it all out.”It’s part art, part chaos, part therapy. And honestly? It’s freeing as hell.Each swing of the bat, each crash of glass — it’s like giving your body permission to release the stuff your mind’s been holding onto. Anger. Grief. Frustration. Even that low-level tension you didn’t realize you were carrying until it wasn’t there anymore.By the end, the walls were splattered, our canvases looked wild, and every ounce of built-up energy had transformed into something… beautiful.<h3>Why It Matters </h3>As a coach, I talk a lot about regulating your nervous system — about finding peace within chaos. But sometimes, peace starts after the storm.The smash room reminded me that emotional release doesn’t have to look pretty. Healing doesn’t have to be quiet. Sometimes your body just needs to move, to yell, to swing, to break something safely and say, “I’m done holding this.”<figure id="figure-vkev4zhjdsmgzdgitv"><img id="vkev4zhjdsmgzdgitv" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/2cmhdTev9MLse8OdDb1RW3AUN7l1qlNzlccC06X25zrWwqoimYGAaFgJG49xbq45.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 50% 30%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionX="50%" data-positionY="30%" data-fullWidth="false"/></figure><h3>Your Turn</h3>If you’ve been feeling that nudge to shake things up — to release what’s been stuck, to clear the energy, to reconnect with your power — maybe it’s time for your own Freedom Day.Whether it’s stillness, salt water, or smashing paint-filled glasses, these experiences are about one thing: coming back to yourself.Because freedom isn’t just a mindset — it’s something you feel in your body. And sometimes, it sounds like glass shattering.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/jaime-messina----mindset---empowerment-coach--one-on-one-coaching">Learn more about having your own FREEDOM DAY EXPERIENCE HERE!</a> &nbsp;

Smash Room Freedom Day: Because Sometimes Growth Is Loud

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You know what I’ve realized? The quiet moments… they’re loud as hell.It’s funny — for so long I thought I needed to do more to find clarity. Read another book. Listen to another podcast. Talk it out with someone until it made sense in my head.But it wasn’t until I started slowing down that I realized the answers were never missing — they were just buried under all the noise.The second life finally slows down — you’re walking on the beach, the world gets still for a minute — that’s when the truth sneaks in. Not the one you post about. The one you’ve been avoiding.The voice that says: “This job isn’t it.” “This relationship’s draining you.” “You’ve outgrown this version of yourself.”Most people drown that voice out with busyness. We keep ourselves “productive” because slowing down feels dangerous. It forces us to face what’s real.But the truth? The answers don’t come when you’re hustling. They come when you’re finally still enough to hear yourself.<h3>When Silence Becomes a Teacher</h3>Stillness used to terrify me. It felt like failure — like if I wasn’t producing, achieving, or fixing something, I was falling behind.But the quiet moments have become my greatest teachers. They’ve revealed truths I didn’t want to see, but needed to.And when I finally stopped fighting that silence, I realized something powerful: My alignment doesn’t live in doing more. It lives in listening better.<h3>Try This</h3>Next time you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected — don’t look for another thing to add. Instead, take something away.Go somewhere quiet. No music. No podcast. No distraction. Just you and your thoughts.Then ask yourself one question: “What truth have I been avoiding?”And then wait. Don’t rush the answer. It’ll show up — maybe as a gut feeling, a memory, or a whisper you can’t ignore.That’s the voice of alignment.<h3>The Bottom Line</h3>The quiet moments aren’t empty. They’re full of everything you’ve been too busy to hear. They hold your next step, your clarity, your freedom.And when you finally stop running long enough to listen — you’ll realize it’s not about finding the truth. It’s about finally giving it space to speak.If you’re tired of the noise and ready to get clear on who you are and what’s next, this is the work I do. My coaching helps you move from overthinking to alignment — to create a life that actually feels like yours again.<h3>Find out more by <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">CLICKING HERE!</a></h3> &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;

The Quiet Moments Are Loud as Hell

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Sometimes the world just feels loud.You ever have those days where everything hits at once—your mind’s racing, your chest feels tight, and you start wondering if you’re even on the right path?<figure id="figure-q3mjho9yjdmgqs3hzl"><img id="q3mjho9yjdmgqs3hzl" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/3zRMDKlGmAlhfb9u1tTU4NiGYgBuC9tXtzgUhZcqZWQOW61ny6D4qnF5n56oKury.jpg" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 15% 20%;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="15%" data-positiony="20%" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/3zRMDKlGmAlhfb9u1tTU4NiGYgBuC9tXtzgUhZcqZWQOW61ny6D4qnF5n56oKury.jpg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: 15% 20%;"></figure>That was me the day this photo was taken. I remember feeling like I was spinning—caught between the pressure to keep everything together and the quiet whisper inside that said, “You can’t keep going like this.”It wasn’t a meltdown moment. It was more of a slow unraveling—the kind that sneaks up when you’ve been holding it together for too long.Later that night, I looked back at the photo and noticed something I hadn’t seen before—a single beam of light cutting right through the frame.And it stopped me.It felt like a reminder from GUS (God, Universe, Source)… That I was being guided. That I was protected. That even when it felt like chaos, something bigger was at play, orchestrating all of it.<h3>The Reminder We All Need</h3>I think sometimes, when we’re deep in the noise of life, we forget that there’s always a higher order unfolding—even when it doesn’t make sense in the moment.We forget that alignment often&nbsp;looks&nbsp;like discomfort while the pieces are rearranging themselves.We forget that growth often feels like confusion before it feels like clarity.That day, that beam of light reminded me: sometimes the light doesn’t show up when you’re searching for it. It appears when you finally stop trying so hard to find it.And in that stillness, you realize—it was there all along.<h3>My Grounding Mantra</h3>“It’s all unfolding perfectly.”That’s the mantra I use when my nervous system is fried, my mind is spinning, or things aren’t going according to plan.It’s not blind optimism—it’s trust. It’s me reminding myself that I don’t have to force clarity or control the outcome.It’s a pause. A breath. A way of coming back home to myself when the world feels too loud.<h3>Create Your Own Anchor</h3>If you don’t already have a mantra, create one. Something short, simple, and true that helps you return to center when life feels heavy.Maybe it’s “I am safe.” Maybe it’s “I’m exactly where I’m meant to be.” Maybe it’s “Everything is working for me.”Whatever it is, let it be your anchor when your mind tries to convince you otherwise.And if you need to borrow one to get started, I’ve got you. Head over to the <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mindset-memos" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/mindset-memos">Mindset Memos page</a>—it's full of grounding thoughts, reframes, and affirmations I use myself on the days when I need a reminder that I’m guided, too.<figure id="figure-glstjff2njmgqs807r"><img id="glstjff2njmgqs807r" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/1etUBuzZNaXdvxRrgfbZ6RUfSeaZ3dPrRiFiq3x49Flszgvr6LOml7bgyITGzkIQ.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/1etUBuzZNaXdvxRrgfbZ6RUfSeaZ3dPrRiFiq3x49Flszgvr6LOml7bgyITGzkIQ.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h3>The Light Is Always There</h3>The truth is—you are guided. You are supported. And even when you can’t see it yet, even when everything feels uncertain… It’s all unfolding perfectly.If this message resonated with you, take a moment to pause and breathe. Then ask yourself: What mantra could I create today to bring me back to trust when life gets loud?Write it down. Repeat it often. Let it become the calm beneath your chaos.Because sometimes, the reminder that everything’s unfolding perfectly is the light you’ve been waiting to see. &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; &nbsp;

Jaime Coaches

Mindset & Empowerment Blog

High Achiever Energy, Quiet Exhaustion — And the Desire f...

HSPs in a Loud World: How I Calm My Energy When It’s Too ...

What It’s Like to Coach as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

Smash Room Freedom Day: Because Sometimes Growth Is Loud

The Quiet Moments Are Loud as Hell

The Day the Light Reminded Me I’m Guided