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If calm makes you feel antsy, restless, or like something bad’s about to happen—you’re not broken. You’re just used to bracing for impact.And that’s not your fault.When you grow up in chaos, unpredictability, or environments where you had to stay on alert to stay safe, your body stores that experience. Your nervous system doesn’t forget it—it builds around it. That hyper-awareness becomes your baseline. So when things finally slow down, when there’s no fight to be had, no fire to put out, your system goes:“Wait a sec... it’s too quiet. What am I missing?”That’s hypervigilance. It’s a somatic memory—your body remembering what it once had to do to survive.And now, even in moments of peace, your body’s looking for danger because peace feels unfamiliar. Unsafe, even.<figure id="figure-e46vxksekmcumv2xa"><iframe id="e46vxksekmcumv2xa" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/DywLsqZp_FU" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/DywLsqZp_FU?si=sa60NVtF6YJvGrjU" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure>But here’s the good news: You can re-teach your body what safety actually feels like.This is where something I call peace anchoring comes in.Instead of trying to force yourself to “just relax,” start gently training your nervous system to associate calm with comfort—not threat.Here’s how:<h3>Peace Anchoring Practice:</h3> Start by asking: “What does safe feel like in my body?”It might be warmth, softness, stillness, or something else entirely. Then—anchor that feeling to something consistent:<ul><li>A hot cup of tea in your favorite mug</li><li>Soft music or calming sounds</li><li>A walk in nature</li><li>Your weighted blanket</li><li>A daily breathwork ritual</li></ul>The more often you pair those external cues with a safe internal state, the more your body begins to recognize calm as normal, not suspicious.Because peace isn’t just the absence of danger—it’s the presence of real safety. And you are allowed to feel that now.It may feel foreign at first. That’s okay. Keep showing your system: “This is what safe feels like.”Keep choosing peace. One breath, one anchor, one moment at a time.

When Calm Feels Uncomfortable: How to Rewire a Nervous System Addicted to Chaos

I kept crashing into the damn pole.Not literally—but in life? Over and over again.I was frustrated, burnt out, and honestly, a little pissed off at the universe. I felt like I was doing everything right. I was reading the books, learning about the Law of Attraction, trying to be a good person, focusing on what I wanted… and still, nothing was changing.After a while, I started thinking maybe this whole manifestation thing was just one big cosmic joke.Then something happened that completely shifted how I saw everything.<figure id="figure-tfh0p97eimcrt31bg"><img id="tfh0p97eimcrt31bg" src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/26DYzhjj9czEvvbiyyOBxtTdCcTd2B9h9ZfEmiBIq6iQFnJdJYVZUFpEfuUTmq7f.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/covers/26DYzhjj9czEvvbiyyOBxtTdCcTd2B9h9ZfEmiBIq6iQFnJdJYVZUFpEfuUTmq7f.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>My mentor, Joseph McClendon III, told a story that hit me square between the eyes. There’s a stretch of road near his house where people kept crashing into the same pole. It happened so often that it made the news. They interviewed the drivers—different people, different times—and every single one said the same thing:“The last thought I had was: don’t hit the pole.”And that right there is the point. They hit the pole because they were focused on the pole.Sound familiar?That’s when it clicked. I had been doing the exact same thing in my own life. Saying I wanted love, abundance, peace… but pouring all my attention into the lack of those things. Obsessing over why they hadn’t shown up yet. Focusing on what wasn’t working.And here’s the thing:Energy doesn’t speak English. It responds to your focus, not your words.You can say “I don’t want to be broke” all day long—but if your focus is still on scarcity, guess what you’re attracting? More of the same. Boom. Pole.Once I realized that, I started shifting. I caught myself in those moments and re-trained my mind to zero in on what I did want—on the vision, the feeling, the energy I wanted to call in. That shift alone started to change everything.<figure id="figure-teal9a2q26mcrt4cdi"><iframe id="teal9a2q26mcrt4cdi" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/kpZV6xN_LCg?si=qF5F7bgQ_y8IZKJ-" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>This is exactly the kind of work we do in my <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind">60-Day Manifest Mastermind</a>, which kicks off tomorrow.This isn’t about wishful thinking or toxic positivity. It’s about rewiring your brain, getting intentional with your energy, and finally building momentum toward the life you want.And if money is the thing that’s been holding you back? You can now use the Pay Later option through PayPal to get started for as low as $40/month. That’s it. No more excuses.So let me ask you:What’s the pole you keep crashing into? What are you unintentionally focused on, even though you’re trying to avoid it?If you’re ready to shift that—this is your moment. We start tomorrow, and this is your last chance to join us.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">👉 Click here to learn more and claim your spot</a>You coming?

Are You Focusing on the Very Thing You’re Trying to Avoid?

Let’s talk about something I hear all the time: “I’ve been doing affirmations every day, but nothing is changing.”You’ve probably been there. You stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself, “I am confident. I am powerful. I’ve got this.” And then… ten minutes later, you’re doubting your worth because someone didn’t text back or your boss gave you a weird look.Sound familiar?Here’s the thing: It’s not that you’re doing affirmations wrong. It’s that your brain isn’t convinced yet.<figure id="figure-1q4qyj9kkmcamba1t" class=""><iframe id="1q4qyj9kkmcamba1t" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ybul_OZDWkI" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/Ybul_OZDWkI?si=R-3Y6b3o7O6iZfoR" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ybul_OZDWkI" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h3>Your Brain Is Wired for Evidence</h3>The human brain is constantly scanning for confirmation of what it already believes. It’s called confirmation bias. If deep down, your subconscious believes you’re not good enough or that confidence isn’t safe, your brain is going to filter the world through that lens. It will highlight all the “proof” that you’re awkward, unworthy, too much, not enough—whatever story it’s been fed for years.So when you say “I’m confident,” your conscious mind might be on board—but your subconscious is over here like, “Girl, no you’re not. Don’t you remember that time in 7th grade when you tripped walking into homeroom?”That disconnect is why affirmations often fall flat. You're trying to plant a new seed, but the soil hasn’t been prepped.<h3>So What Actually Does Work?</h3>Instead of jumping straight to “I am confident,” you’ve got to build a bridge between where you are and where you want to be.Here’s how:1. Start with what’s believable.Try: “I’m learning how to feel more confident each day.” This gives your brain something to work with. It doesn’t immediately reject the statement, because it feels possible.2. Collect new evidence on purpose.Your brain is always collecting receipts—so feed it new ones. That moment you spoke up in the meeting? Evidence. The time you wore the outfit that felt bold AF and walked out the door anyway? Evidence. Keep a running list. This helps train your RAS (Reticular Activating System) to notice more moments that reinforce your growth.3. Pair affirmations with action.Affirmations aren’t magic spells—they need energy behind them. Say “I’m confident” and do something small that aligns with that identity. Post the reel. Go to the event. Send the email. Confidence is a muscle—you build it by using it.Bottom Line:Your affirmations aren’t failing. Your brain just needs time—and strategy—to catch up. You don’t need more hustle. You need alignment. And when you learn how to work with your brain instead of against it? That’s when the shift happens.Want support retraining your brain and rewiring those old patterns? Our next round of the <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind">Manifest Mastermind</a> starts soon. This 60-day group coaching program is all about getting clear, rewiring your beliefs, and taking aligned action that actually sticks.<figure id="figure-apgo0186jmcamiui8"><iframe id="apgo0186jmcamiui8" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/kpZV6xN_LCg?si=Jq0Qa9tijUIRvaG7" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure>It’s not about saying the words—it’s about becoming the version of you who believes them.Let’s do this together.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" data-mce-selected="inline-boundary">LEARN MORE ABOUT THE PROGRAM BY CLICKING HERE!﻿</a>&nbsp;

Why Telling Yourself "I'm Confident" Isn't Working (And What to Do Instead)

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Let’s talk about one sneaky thought that keeps a lot of people stuck:“I’ll start when I feel ready.”Sounds reasonable, right? But here’s the truth: readiness is a myth.Your brain is wired for safety, not success. It’s designed to keep you in the familiar, even if that familiar is unfulfilling, uncomfortable, or out of alignment with what you really want.So if you’re waiting for some magical moment when you’ll feel confident, clear, and totally ready to take that leap—chances are, you’ll be waiting a long time.<h3>Here’s what actually works:</h3>Start before you feel ready.Because momentum doesn’t come from confidence. Confidence comes from movement.The people who transform their lives? They’re not the ones who had it all figured out. They’re the ones who decided to show up anyway.So if you’ve been stuck in the loop of overthinking, waiting, or holding off until the timing feels perfect, here’s your mindset shift:👉 Ask yourself: “Am I willing to show up anyway?” 👉 Or even better: “Am I open to what’s possible if I stop waiting?”That’s when everything begins to shift.<figure id="figure-bvj8r2tem4mc4xwxys"><iframe id="bvj8r2tem4mc4xwxys" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/kpZV6xN_LCg?si=DjW_JfOVz-kN2TFB" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure><h3>This is exactly what we’ll be working on inside the 60-Day Manifest Mastermind</h3>Starting July 7th, we’re diving deep into the work of rewiring old patterns, aligning your thoughts and energy with what you actually want, and learning to take powerful, inspired action—even when it feels a little scary.Inside the Manifest Mastermind, we’ll be combining:<ul><li>Neuroscience-backed mindset strategies</li><li>Manifestation practices that actually work</li><li>Real-time coaching + community support</li></ul>So if you're done waiting to feel "ready" and you're ready to become the version of you who goes for it—this is your space.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind">CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE!</a>Because the life you want isn’t waiting on readiness—it’s waiting on you.Let’s go.

One Thought That’s Keeping You Stuck (and How to Shift It)

<figure id="figure-ztvdkr4yhemc3rexg5"><img id="ztvdkr4yhemc3rexg5" src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/ayLWUIlELK2grsrMS0kkNbLHyr3M4F76lwMHdIl4gCxuquureZKNHiMzMFRlHE2P.png" alt="" title="" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="null" data-positiony="null" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://cdn.durable.co/blocks/ayLWUIlELK2grsrMS0kkNbLHyr3M4F76lwMHdIl4gCxuquureZKNHiMzMFRlHE2P.png" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure>I had what seemed like a random thought one day: start a Facebook support group. No plan, no big vision, just a quiet pull that felt too aligned to ignore. It didn’t feel like effort—it felt inspired. So I followed it.Fast forward a little over two years… and that same group—the one that came from a single inspired nudge—was written about and published in The New York Times.That wasn’t luck. That was alignment. That was intuition. That was manifestation in motion.And it wasn’t the first time a seemingly small thought turned into something massive.<figure id="figure-qucc0cz6s9mc3r9rtx"><iframe id="qucc0cz6s9mc3r9rtx" class="w-full bg-gray-100 h-80 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtube.com/shorts/vfJkyJH7GMg?si=9rtIzHDLXgRCJPCJ" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure><h3>The Power of Inspired Thought and Action</h3> One of the biggest game changers in my life has been learning how to recognize inspired thoughts and take inspired action. You know the ones—those quiet nudges that feel both exciting and a little scary? That idea that drops in out of nowhere but feels like it just might lead somewhere incredible?Yeah, those aren’t random.Learning to trust those moments—and take action before the overthinking kicks in—is one of the biggest manifestation tools I’ve ever practiced. And it works, not because it’s magic, but because it’s backed by how your brain actually works. (Hi, Reticular Activating System, I see you.)Once I stopped brushing off those nudges and started acting on them, my life completely shifted. Opportunities, breakthroughs, moments that made me stop and go, “Wait… is this real?” started happening on repeat.<h3>That’s Why I Created the 60-Day Manifest Mastermind</h3> Because I want YOU to experience that same kind of clarity, alignment, and momentum.Starting July 7th, I’m leading a group of powerful humans through a 60-day journey that combines neuroscience, energy work, and real-world manifestation tools to help you:<ul><li>Recognize and trust inspired thoughts</li><li>Rewire your brain for confidence, clarity, and expansion</li><li>Align your energy with what you actually want</li><li>Take aligned action toward the life you’ve been dreaming of</li></ul>This isn’t about surface-level positivity or manifesting a bunch of "stuff" (unless you want that, too). This is about manifesting who you become in the process.The version of you who speaks up. Takes up space. Trusts themselves deeply. The version who moves from inspiration—not fear.<h3>Are You In?</h3> If you’re feeling that nudge, that quiet “yes”—follow it.<a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind">CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE!</a>Your dream life isn’t random. It’s waiting for you to show up for it.Let’s go.

When a 'Random' Thought Changed Everything (And How You Can Manifest Big, Too)

There was a time in my life when I couldn’t even call to make my own doctor’s appointment.That’s not an exaggeration. I’d hand the phone to my mom because I physically couldn’t speak to the person on the other end. I took F’s in college to avoid speaking in front of the class. I left jobs because the idea of having to look people in the eye or talk to strangers sent me spiraling.For most of my life, anxiety ruled everything. I had all these ideas and inspirations inside me, but they never saw the light of day because I was too afraid to act on them. I blamed everything outside of myself: my weight, my voice, my skills, my looks. And as a result, I made myself so small that people literally didn’t see me. And honestly, I believed they shouldn’t.So when I tell you I once performed on stage in front of 25,000 people, I need you to understand something: it wasn’t about the performance.It was about who I had to become to stand there.<figure id="figure-iqmjxpetyjmc0zyetj"><iframe id="iqmjxpetyjmc0zyetj" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/xkwFGO-mFAQ" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;" allowfullscreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/xkwFGO-mFAQ?si=9aOHnWFjrnp6VX9z" data-corners="default" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/xkwFGO-mFAQ" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9;"></iframe></figure><h3>The Shift That Changed Everything</h3> Two years before that moment, the version of me that held that mic didn’t exist.That version of me would have panicked and shut down. She would have found an excuse not to go. She would have watched someone else live out her dream because fear had the final say.But I hit a point where I was so uncomfortable in my own skin that I knew something had to change. I couldn’t keep living ruled by my anxiety, my limiting beliefs, or the old stories looping in my head.So I made a decision...to learn how to get out of my own way.<figure id="figure-agi06atrsmc0zzzdm"><img id="agi06atrsmc0zzzdm" src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/136917528/photo/wires-on-brain-specimen.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=9jHYkrcQWoyju6LyIoyv_jpjUsVJ4hBPWlLjZzr5cQw=" alt="Wires on Brain Specimen" title="Wires on Brain Specimen" class="object-cover bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;" data-corners="default" data-aspect="16:9" data-caption="" data-positionx="undefined" data-positiony="undefined" data-fullwidth="false" data-mce-src="https://media.gettyimages.com/id/136917528/photo/wires-on-brain-specimen.jpg?b=1&amp;s=2048x2048&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=9jHYkrcQWoyju6LyIoyv_jpjUsVJ4hBPWlLjZzr5cQw=" data-mce-style="aspect-ratio: 16/9; object-position: center center;"></figure><h3>Rewiring My Brain with Manifestation and Neuroscience</h3> This wasn’t about "just think positive" or pretending everything was fine. It was about learning how to actually rewire my brain using the science of neuroplasticity and the power of the Reticular Activating System (RAS).Your RAS is like your brain’s filter. It decides what you notice and what you ignore. Once I understood that, I started being intentional with what I was focusing on. I put the vision in my mind, and I backed it with emotion, energy, and belief.I visualized that moment on stage before it happened. I felt what it would be like to hold that mic. I spoke it out loud. (I even told my dad, at the previous summit, "Next year, I’ll be up there.")And then? I took inspired action.I worked with my nervous system. I rewrote my internal narrative. I followed those nudges and built the confidence I had always craved.That moment on stage wasn’t about lights or applause. It was the physical evidence of the inner work I had done. It was the result of getting clear, raising my vibration, aligning with my goals, and doing the real, behind-the-scenes work to change how I thought, felt, and acted.<h3>This Is Why I Created the Manifest Mastermind</h3> Because I know what it feels like to think you’re too broken, too anxious, too far gone to ever become who you really are.And I know firsthand, that’s just a story your brain is looping.Which means? You can rewire it.That’s exactly why I created the <a data-mce-href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind" href="https://jaimecoaches.com/themanifestmastermind">60-Day Manifest Mastermind</a>, a neuroscience-backed group coaching program designed to help you:<ul><li>Rewire your brain using neuroplasticity and manifestation tools that work</li><li>Break through limiting beliefs and old patterns that keep you stuck</li><li>Learn how to use your Reticular Activating System to bring your desires into reality</li><li>Cultivate confidence, joy, peace, and aligned purpose</li><li>Take inspired action toward the life you’ve been craving</li></ul>We start July 7th, and over 60 days, you’ll get:<ul><li>Weekly video trainings rooted in neuroscience and mindset</li><li>Interactive workbooks to help you integrate what you learn</li><li>Weekly live group coaching calls every Thursday at 8 PM EST</li><li>A private community for connection, accountability, and support</li><li>Optional 1:1 sessions for those ready to go deeper</li></ul>This isn’t about manifesting random "stuff" (though hey, you totally can). It’s about manifesting a new version of you.The one who speaks up. The one who takes up space. The one who no longer lets anxiety write the script.<figure id="figure-ny4m7uho5rmc105k9n"><iframe id="ny4m7uho5rmc105k9n" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/kpZV6xN_LCg" class="w-full bg-gray-100 rounded-2xl md:rounded-3xl lg:rounded-4xl" style="aspect-ratio: 16/9" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowFullScreen="" data-url="https://youtu.be/kpZV6xN_LCg?si=v-f6ldSjWNbJHNhB" data-corners="default" data-fullWidth="false"></iframe></figure><h3>Are You In?</h3>If you’re tired of playing small… of shrinking… of waiting for the "right time" to finally start living—this is your moment.DM me "I’m in" or click here to learn more.Let’s rewire your brain. Let’s raise your frequency. Let’s manifest the life you actually want.You’ve got one life. Let’s make it one you’re proud of.

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Mindset & Empowerment Blog

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Why Telling Yourself "I'm Confident" Isn't Working (And W...

One Thought That’s Keeping You Stuck (and How to Shift It)

When a 'Random' Thought Changed Everything (And How You C...

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