When Dating Anxiety Shows Up Uninvited

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This episode wasn’t planned.
There was no outline.
No “today we’re going to talk about…”

It started with chili, a casual weekend hang, and a friend who admitted she was feeling anxious about her dating life.

And honestly? That’s usually when the real work shows up.

My friend Ari started sharing what had been coming up for her—overthinking, uncertainty, that familiar mental spiral that kicks in when you like someone and suddenly your nervous system forgets how to act normal. If you’ve dated as a sensitive, self-aware, emotionally intelligent human, you probably know the feeling.

Your mind starts running scenarios.
Your body goes into alert mode.
And suddenly you’re reacting to something that hasn’t even happened yet.

What was powerful about this conversation is that it wasn’t theoretical. It was happening in real time. So instead of talking about dating anxiety, we worked with it as it showed up.

We talked about how the subconscious mind drives so much of what we experience in dating—how old patterns, past relationships, and unprocessed emotional memories quietly influence what we expect, what we fear, and what we tolerate. And how, without realizing it, we can end up manifesting the very dynamics we say we don’t want.

I coached Ari through a few simple but effective tools to interrupt that pattern. Nothing complicated. Nothing performative. Just practical ways to slow the spiral, bring the nervous system back into safety, and create space between a thought and a reaction.

Because here’s the thing most people miss:
You don’t manifest from what you want.
You manifest from what your body believes is familiar and safe.

When dating anxiety is running the show, it’s usually not because something is “wrong” with you. It’s because your system is trying to protect you using outdated information.

This episode is for anyone who:

• Overthinks after dates
• Feels anxious when they actually like someone
• Notices themselves repeating relationship patterns
• Wants a different future but keeps feeling pulled into the same dynamics

It’s a real conversation, real coaching, and real tools you can start using right now to shift how you show up in dating—and what you allow into your life.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?”
This episode will help you start answering that question differently.

And yes… it really did start with chili.

It’s all unfolding perfectly.

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