Healing Your Inner Child: How Childhood Patterns Could Be Holding You Back

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Sep 04, 2024By Jaime Coaches

Have you ever wondered why certain situations trigger you or why some patterns seem impossible to break? The answer might lie in a part of you that you don’t often think about—your inner child. This concept refers to the part of your subconscious that carries the emotions, memories, and experiences from your early years. Far from being just a memory, your inner child can have a significant impact on your adult life, shaping how you see yourself and interact with the world.

5 Ways Your Inner Child Might Be Holding You Back


1. Fear of Rejection
Remember that time as a kid when you weren’t picked for the team or when a friend didn’t want to play with you? These moments might seem trivial now, but they can leave deep emotional scars. If your inner child felt rejected, you might avoid situations where rejection is possible—like pursuing relationships or taking risks in your career. This fear can hold you back from fully engaging in life and seizing opportunities.

2. Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem
Were you criticized or not supported enough as a child? Those negative messages can turn into a lifetime of self-doubt. Your inner child might carry a narrative of “I’m not good enough,” which manifests in your adult life as perfectionism or an inability to celebrate your achievements. This constant self-doubt can prevent you from going after what you really want, making you feel like you don’t deserve success or happiness.

3. Difficulty Trusting Others
If your caregivers were inconsistent or betrayed your trust, your inner child might still be guarding against being hurt again. This can show up as difficulty trusting others in your adult life, keeping you from forming close, meaningful relationships. You might keep people at a distance or be overly suspicious, which only reinforces your loneliness and isolation.

4. Avoidance of Conflict
Did you grow up in a household where conflict was either explosive or avoided? Your inner child might have learned that confrontation is something to fear or evade at all costs. As an adult, this can translate into avoiding difficult conversations or not standing up for yourself. The result? Unresolved problems and resentment, whether in your personal relationships or at work.

5. Fear of Failure
Were you harshly criticized for your mistakes as a child? This can create a deep fear of failure that lingers into adulthood. You might avoid taking on challenges, procrastinate, or play it safe to avoid the possibility of failing. But this fear can stifle your potential, keeping you from achieving your goals and growing as a person.

Breaking Free: One Small Step You Can Take Today


If you recognize any of these patterns in yourself, know that you’re not alone—and more importantly, you can start to change them. One small but powerful step is to practice self-compassion. Begin by becoming aware of when these limiting beliefs pop up. Instead of criticizing yourself, try speaking to yourself with kindness, as you would to a friend. For example, if you catch yourself fearing failure, remind yourself, “It’s okay to make mistakes; I’m learning and growing.”

Incorporate daily affirmations like “I am worthy of love and success” or “I trust myself and others” to rewire your inner dialogue. With consistent practice, self-compassion can help heal your inner child, allowing you to move past these limitations and live a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Understanding how your inner child affects your adult life is a crucial step toward healing and personal growth. By addressing these deeply rooted patterns, you can break free from the limitations they impose and start living the life you truly deserve. So take that first step today—your inner child, and your future self, will thank you.

Ready to start your healing journey? 

Have you noticed any of these patterns in your own life? What steps have you taken to overcome them? 

Join us for the upcoming group coaching program, Childhood Reclaimed: A Journey to Inner Peace. This is a 12-Week group coaching program led by empowerment coach, Jaime Messina, geared toward connecting with, building trust, and beginning to heal your inner child so that the patterns of your past stop affecting your current life!

If you are ready to start your healing journey, join us September 16th for the program! You can learn more information about it by clicking here!