Your Brain’s Not Broken—Here’s Why It’s Resisting Change

Let me say something you really need to hear:
Your brain is not broken. You’re not failing. You’re not lazy. You’re not "bad at healing."

What’s happening is this: your brain is doing exactly what it was wired to do—keep you safe.

So when you try to make a change—whether it’s setting a boundary, leaving a relationship, speaking up for yourself, or even just trying something new—your brain doesn’t always recognize it as growth. It often sees it as threat.

And the response?
Overthinking.
Procrastination.
Shutting down.
Avoiding.
Feeling tired for no reason.

That’s not weakness. That’s your nervous system sounding the alarm, trying to protect you from what it thinks is unsafe—even if that “unsafe” thing is actually something really good for you.

So, What Do You Do Instead of Forcing It?
You start small.
Like… ridiculously small.

Pick one action your brain won’t freak out about.
Say “no” to something low-stakes.
Take five minutes for yourself in the morning before picking up your phone.
Pause before responding to that one person who always drains you.

These tiny actions might not seem like much, but they’re powerful.
Because they build trust with your nervous system.
And trust is what allows real, lasting change to stick.

You don’t need to push harder. You don’t need to be more disciplined.
You need to feel safer.

This is exactly the kind of work I do with my coaching clients every week—helping them regulate their nervous systems, rewire limiting beliefs, and finally stop repeating the same stuck cycles over and over again.

If this resonates and you're ready to feel supported in your growth, I’d love to chat.
Send me a message at [email protected] and we can set up a time to chat. 

Your next version is already waiting for you—you just don’t have to get there alone.