Triggered? It’s a Portal, Not a Problem

Let’s talk about triggers—
Not as something to avoid, dismiss, or feel ashamed about...
But as portals.

Yeah. I said it.

You know that moment when someone says something, or doesn’t text back, or gives you a certain look—and you feel that flash of heat in your chest? That knot in your stomach? That urge to shut down, lash out, or overthink every little thing?

That’s not weakness.
That’s your nervous system waving a flag and saying:
“Hey… there’s something here that still needs your attention.”

The world has taught us to treat triggers like landmines—things we need to hide or tiptoe around.
But what if, instead, we got curious?
What if being triggered is less about what someone else did—and more about what we still haven’t healed?

Your Triggers Aren’t the Problem. The Story Underneath Is.

That uncomfortable feeling? That sudden reaction?
It’s not random. It’s a doorway to something deeper.
Because your body holds memory.
And when something pokes at an old wound, your system responds fast. That’s not you overreacting—that’s a survival mechanism.

But here’s the shift: 

Instead of saying, “I’m triggered,”
try saying, “Something in me needs my attention.”

Feel the difference?

One closes the door with shame.
The other opens it with curiosity.

So… What Do You Do When You’re Triggered?

You listen. You give that part of you a voice.
Here are a few ways to start:

• Journal it. Let the thoughts out without censoring yourself.
• Record a voice note. Talk to yourself like you would a friend.
• Try mirror talk. Ask: “What are you trying to tell me right now?”

The goal isn’t to push the feeling away—it’s to move through it.

Because healing isn’t about never getting triggered again.
It’s about recognizing the trigger, understanding the story behind it, and responding with compassion instead of reaction.

Your Trigger Is Your Teacher

Here’s the truth no one told us growing up:
That discomfort you feel? That’s not the enemy.
That’s your body showing you where you’re ready to heal next.

So the next time something sets you off, pause before spiraling into shame or blame.
Instead, ask:

“What is this here to teach me?”
“What am I still holding onto?”
“What version of me needs to be seen right now?”

Because that trigger?
It’s not a breakdown.
It’s a breakthrough waiting to happen.

And you’re brave enough to walk through it.

 
Want support while you learn to respond instead of react?

This is the work I do with my coaching clients—helping you break old emotional patterns, heal your nervous system, and finally feel safe being fully you.

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